but don't fool yourself into believing as long as you are willing to open up, the other sides would be able to do the same for you. even if they thought they did, it is very difficult to completely have your own value emerged into the one they have: you can change you name for who you are, but you can never compltely change for what you are. in time, you will find what set in as the foundamental value for you in your earlier days, will come back sooner and more dominant than you could ever realize and willing to admit...
