In my dictionary," tenderness" isn't treating the man like a King, but treating him as the man I love, my best friend and always the one who will always be there for him.
Brilliant, confident and successful men never want to spend their rest of life with a nanny or servant. They want to live with a lovely lady as equal partner who can share his special moments with and can be counted on. Nothing is better in a couple relationship than "trust and defense".