if the man has been faithful, would this be a totally different story? maybe I am naive, but inablity to be faithful to one's partner is the primary manifesto of the unreadiness of commitment. I think most people will agree. so blame noone, the guy is still a Chinese. Living in China with much choices of females, he might never be able to settle down with any woman; the man's history indicating he either was or will be incapable of commitment. enough said, woman, move on!