#1: The only fact is that the person walked past, anything else (1642 reads) 作者: 医声, 时间: 2013-5-28 周二, 12:27 — 作者：医声 在 海归茶馆 发贴, 来自【海归网】 http://www.haiguinet.com
"At stressful times, we tend to be driven by our emotions and opinions, which create a vicious cycle by fuelling each other. Our emotions strengthen our opinions, which in turn, intensify our emotions.
This leads to impulsive acts and unhelpful longer term consequences, which help to maintain the overall problem.
It can therefore be helpful to ask ourselves whether what we’re thinking is FACT or OPINION.
· If it’s a fact, then we can make choices about what we can or cannot do.
· If it’s an opinion, then we can look at the facts – what we do know about the situation."
In the same way, individuals can have many varied opinions about the same event or situation. If someone we know walked past us without saying hello, we might think, “they deliberately ignored me”, “she’s being snooty and rude”, “they didn’t want to talk to me because they don’t like me” and so on.
This might lead us to feel upset, and react in ways that are unhelpful.
The only fact is that the person walked past, anything else is opinion – our own personal interpretation of the event. The reality is that they just didn’t see us.
Realising that many thoughts are opinion rather than fact makes it less likely that we’ll be distressed by them, and more able to make wise and calm decisions about what the best action to take.
